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Jan 28, 2019

Kendra Dahlstrom [Mom's Success Coach/20+ years consultant to Fortune 500 companies] joins Pastor Tom to talk about "Mom Guilt" and several other topics applicable to moms.
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24TODAY Podcast Notes: "Mom Guilt"
(with Kendra Dahlstrom)
“Mompreneur" - a mom who wants to create her own business.
After 20 years in the corporate world, Kendra began feeling God was saying to her that she was capable of more. Kendra says, “I didn’t know what that looked like yet. I just had to trust Him.”
“I had experienced many signs throughout my life that I would be connected to God in a closer way. After almost 20 years in corporate, I was burned-out, exhausted, my marriage was stressed, and I felt like the unhealthiest person I knew.” -Kendra Dohlstrom
Intimacy: “Into-Me-You-See”
“Everything is either in love or fear. When we have a sense of 'overwhelm' or stress, it’s really a fear response. It’s a fear of judgement or the fear that you don’t want people to see you as you really are. It could be a fear caused by "people pleasing" or a fear of upsetting people. If I cut off intimacy to myself (because I don’t want to really see what’s going on in me)… then I project that. I end up cutting off that connection with others. It’s really an inward job.” -Kendra Dohlstrom
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a HOPE and a FUTURE.” -Jeremiah 29:11
“Calling-Blocker” - anything that gets in the way of you fulfilling your calling or your purpose.
God leads us into times where we have to realize that WE AREN’T IN CONTROL.
Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. - Matthew 11:28
Helicopter Mom - this comes from a loving place. A mom cares so deeply… they don’t want their child to get hurt. It comes from a "FEAR mode". It’s about control. It makes us feel safe when things are in control. We know the outcome and their are no surprises. 
A common theme of control is SAFETY. 
"The most difficult area for me to let go of control is when it has to do with my kids. The more you love something, the more control you want to have."    -Kendra Dahlstrom
Jeremiah 29:11 applies to your children as well.
“Overwhelmed" typically comes about when there is an "upset" inside of us. We either are fearful of something that is going to happen (but hasn’t), or we are fearful because we are trying to get a future outcome.”   -Kendra Dahlstrom
“I sometimes ask God to help me determine the top priorities of my "To Do" list so that I don’t unnecessarily add stress to my life.   -Kendra Dahlstrom
A general reason for not feeling appreciated is because you aren’t appreciating yourself.
"If we hide the reality of our shortcomings from ourselves, then we judge ourselves. But if we have compassion for ourselves and allow God to forgive us… then we must forgive ourselves as well." - Kendra Dahlstrom 
"Remember if moms are judging you, they are also judging themselves." -Kendra Dahlstrom
Do the best you can and be honest with yourself and your kids.